Let’s end the year with one really simple but profound end of year ritual.
The exercise is to make a list of everything you’re proud of over the last year.
Sounds easy, but it's waaaaaay more of a challenge than it sounds.
Some guidance here .... do this with a partner.
That’s key, this way so you don’t get all bashful, like “Er, um, I guess I did some … stuff..?”
It’s best to do this with someone who gets you and really “sees” you and your accomplishments and who will draw more out of you.
Take turns asking each other what you’re proud of.
Start with “I’m proud of…” and list out things like:
- Learning accomplishments
- Work accomplishments
- Tricky situations that you dealt with well
- Boundaries you enforced
- Goals you hit
- Personal accomplishments
Give yourself the time to really shine a light on everything you've done.
It is a challenge to remember everything.
So, here’s how to take it to the next level.
Your partner simply asks you.....
Silence. No prompting. No jumping in for their turn.
Just ask the question “What else?” and wait.
Keep asking until you have at LEAST 50 things.
There will be lots of pauses when you think you’re done and then “Oh yeah! I forgot about this one!”.
Then keep asking, “What else?”
Trust me, you’ll be buzzing at the end of it, so don’t give up.
The list of achievements is important but the question “What else?” is extremely important too.
You’ll probably get stuck at about five things you’re proud of, because you don’t want to brag, you discount your accomplishments or you’ve just forgotten.
Keep asking and don’t give up.
If you do it by yourself, eventually you’ll run out of steam and move on to something else.
For the best results, you need a partner to hold the space and to gently ask “What else?”.
As soon as you run out of things …. what else?
When you think you haven’t done anything good …. what else?
As soon as you think there’s nothing else to celebrate …. what else?
If you tell yourself it was a bad year …. what else?
When you think you’ve written everything …. what else?
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