Not **just** in a therapeutic relationship, but also with your husband, wife, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, family member, work colleague, customer or client.
Given any situation, in work or life as well as our counselling training, we are now more aware than ever of listening intently to the conversation.
Actually hearing the meaning behind the words.
So here goes>>> make a cup of tea and have a go at this>>>
For each statement, write down whether you consider it to be True (T) or False (F). Do try and answer every statement.
_______ 1. Most people are brought up to be good listeners.
_______ 2. People's thoughts can interfere with their listening.
_______ 3. Listening is a natural activity.
_______ 4. To be able to listen to others, people need to be able to listen to themselves.
_______ 5. Being a good listener never requires self-discipline.
_______ 6. People may resist listening to others who blame and get angry with them.
_______ 7. People are more likely to talk to people with whom they feel safe and accepted than with those whom they do not.
_______ 8. It is always up to other people to communicate precisely what they want.
_______ 9. People who have something that they can't wait to say, listen well.
_______ 10. Some people listen too much because they're afraid of revealing themselves.
_______ 11. An important aspect in developing trust is listening and keeping confidences.
_______ 12. Talking is more important than listening in interpersonal communication.
_______ 13. The amount people reveal about themselves is likely to influence the amount others tell them about themselves.
_______ 14. Fatigue never affects the quality of people's listening.
_______ 15. People who feel very emotional about issues are good listeners.
_______ 16. Listening to others does not involve paying attention to their voice quality and body language as well as what they say.
_______ 17. People who are very angry are rarely good listeners.
_______ 18. People sometimes send mixed messages which are difficult for the listener to understand.
How did that feel? What did you discover about your own listening skills?
Why not share any insights in the comments below.
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